Read this before you LOCK one man with Jazz
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Hi, young and agile Nigerian
At least the 90 days in January are almost coming to an end and we have survived, please clap for yourself.
Meanwhile, as we have all planned to “lock in” this 2026 and make the easily proud parent proud, I have heard from a very reliable source, that some people’s new year’s resolution is to tie man! (Alexa play me “desperado”)
If it’s to tie a cheating man, Odogwu spender or hopefully the “dream man”, any which way… this newsletter is for you even if it’s just amebo you like!
Get ready to sip and spill tea
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Just read this before you “tie” your man with jazz
It’s just gist o. Before you crucify me.
So I saw this movie a week ago, starring Stan Nze and Inem King and I could not stop laughing, because what do you mean the female lead went and jazzed her “dream man” with kayamata, only to go upstairs and find out that the “dream man” was a stalker and complete psycho who was just obsessed with her as one of his numerous victims!
Now Babe has fed him with enough kayamata to make him “hers” forever (If you still don’t know the kind of locking we’re talking about, I’m afraid I can’t help you pleasee😂)
Babe even came to discover that the “dream man” had inappropriate pictures of random women hidden in his room and had put a tracking thingy in her phone and monitored her every move, so imagine her plight.
Let me keep how the whole charade ended for your discovery. Check it out here
Movies these days are really moving in interesting directions and I just wanted to share my latest discovery,
But on a more serious note, one big lesson to take from this plot is: love should never be compelled. Anything you have to force, jazz, trap or manipulate will always come back with premium tears. A man that is “locked” is not in love, he is controlled and control is a dangerous thing.
And honestly, women are far too valuable to be chasing love through fear, desperation or kayamata. The same energy people use to “lock” men, imagine channeling it into building your life, your confidence, your craft and your money. Because real attraction is not in jazz, it’s in growth.
Instead of locking a man, let’s lock in our grind. Lock in consistency. Lock in soft life. Lock in peace of mind. Lock in serious moneyyyy!
Because when you become whole on your own, you won’t need to force love, love will find you without tracking devices and secret rooms full of madness.
So… would you rather lock a man or lock in your grind? Let’s talk about it!
Goodnews…Your friend will find a lover soon!
You’ve been pitching ideas and projects, but now it’s time to pitch that your single friend like an actual project and find her a mannnnn!😂
Pitch Your Friend is a fun, high-energy event for career professionals and entrepreneurs who already know how to pitch, but instead of startups or business ideas, you come prepared with a short 5–7 slide deck to present your friend to the room.
You can attend in three ways:
Be the one being pitched, pitch your friend, or simply come to watch, network, and enjoy the experience.
It’s time to use your pro skills to pitch your friend and have some real fun doing it!
Save your seat here
Here’s one of the replies shared by a community member this week. from last week’s story (In case you missed it, check here for context)
“Run. Please run as far as you can.
A 15-year age gap isn’t just about numbers it often means you’re not in the same generation or mindset. You may not think, dream, or see life on the same wavelength. Yes, some people make it work, but only when both parties are willing to compromise and put in real effort. From what you’ve shared, that effort isn’t there.
You’re an ambitious woman. You deserve someone who supports your dreams as much as you support his not someone who tries to shrink you. What I’m hearing is someone who wants to clip your wings. The threats are the biggest red flag. If he’s already talking about hitting you, it only takes one disagreement for that to become real. Violence doesn’t start with a slap it starts with words.
I’ve been in a manipulative, overly controlling relationship before. He isolated me from male friends, then female friends. Even his own friends weren’t “allowed” around me. He slowly made sure I had no one but him. That’s how manipulation works: they isolate you until you’re dependent, then they destroy you.
Please don’t ignore this. I’m still healing this year makes it three years since I left. I don’t want that story to be yours. Run. You deserve better”
What do you think, let’s gist!
Have a striking story, or a throbbing question, just anything?
Share it anonymously with the community here, let’s talk it out together.
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Let’s backtrack a bit and try one of my personal faves… I know this wave has slowed down, but if you didn’t swim with it last year, now is the perfect time to jump in, and if you’re already watching, just know the suspense almost finished us when we first saw it..
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Jollof Rice and Other Revolutions by Omolola Ijeoma Ogunyemi This book is a novel in interlocking stories that follows the lives of four Nigerian women whose friendship begins during a school rebellion in the 1980s.Check it out if you haven’t read this already.
Self Help
The Anxious Achiever is written by Morra Aarons-Mele and the book explores how ambitious people can turn anxiety into a strength while building successful, fulfilling careers without burning out.
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